I didn’t make any New Year’s resolutions this year {well, besides to blog more}. Not because there aren’t things I need to improve upon, but my life has been changing so quickly as of late {military relocations, babies, publishing a novel} that I’m not entirely sure what challenges and opportunities the year ahead is going to bring. So, instead of a list of resolutions, I spent a few minutes on New Year’s Eve coming up with a personal mantra to live by in 2015: Be kinder and more patient, especially with yourself. And, as corny as it may sound, whenever I’ve felt frustrated or overwhelmed during the last couple of weeks, I’ve found solace in taking a deep breath and repeating these words to myself. That, and in a big piece of chocolate cake {yay for no resolutions!}.

Another New Year-sy thing that I’ve done since January 1st is making a bucket {or, as Olivia in Flawed Happiness calls it, “fuck-it”} list. I recently created a Pinterest account for the book and have a fuck-it list board inspired by this character. As many of us do, I’ve always had an abstract idea of the things I’d like to do before I die, but taking the time to really think about and document these things made me feel more accountable to them. Although I haven’t completed as many I would like, especially those things that would have been easier to do in my twenties {before careers and kids, like traveling Europe}, I have done a few, writing a book being one of them. Another was performing a spoken-word poem in front of an audience {check out my Pinterest page for the video!}. Public speaking and sharing my writing are two deep-rooted sources of discomfort for me, so it was eye-opening that both of these items were not only on my list, but two of the most empowering things I have ever done. This realization has inspired me to look not only to my dreams and ambitions for items to add to the list, but also to my fears.

So, friends, I know I’m a few weeks late, but I’d like to wish all of you a 2015 filled with the kind of unadulterated happiness and fulfillment that comes from chasing your dreams. What’s on your fuck-it list this year?


02/09/2015 2:36pm

Love! Love! Love the Fuck-It-List!

02/09/2015 9:10pm

Thank you Rhanae!

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